Features of American life.

Again charmed I shall go.

The mind is full of bright expectations,

The heart feels a new misfortune.

(Alexey Romanov, the group “Resurrection”)

An immigrant who has become an immigrant and turns into a permanent resident of a new country is going through what is not quite the right name “cultural shock”. Here the word “culture” refers not to visual arts, music and literature, but to the customs of society.

Each society is characterized by a complex of fundamental things that everyone “knows” and who is learning in childhood. They are “automatic” for all people of this culture and include everything from elementary rules of behavior and the characteristics of daily life to issues related to the worldview. Naturally, the “norms” of different societies are not similar to each other and sometimes differ very much. Faced with the need to adapt to the new reality, the emigrant goes through several stages.

Stage 1. Anxiety that appears even before leaving for another country. “What is he looking for in a faraway country, what has he thrown at the edge of his native land?”

Stage 2. Delight, like euphoria. Everything is new and interesting. I feel at the same time a tourist and president of a friendly country, who came on an official visit.

Stage 3. Dull thoughts and a depressed mood. I begin to understand that most things in the new world are very different from the usual ones. I lack the friends and relatives who have stayed at home, and the sense of loneliness worsens.

Stage 4. Surface adaptation in the process of performing everyday affairs and developing minimum skills. At times, an illusory feeling of full ownership of the situation appears.

Stage 5. Discouraged and low self-esteem. Everything goes wrong, as it was thought. “The connection of times has disintegrated.” I’m not here as I was before, and many of my qualities and skills are not appreciated in the new environment. It was not easy to master the language. I am an outsider, they treat me like a child. Local, and many “our”, behave unfriendly. I can not understand people and this uncomfortability causes angry emotions.

Stage 6. Mastering the language and rules of the game. Self-esteem comes back. Begins to immerse in a new culture. There is an understanding that many problems are problems not only for immigrants of the first year, but for all others.

But in general, an inadequate response is typical when encountering an unfamiliar object, simply because of many features of emigration, the reaction often takes “allergic”

absolutely agree with you.

As a guide for the analysis of particular cases – is problematic. Some of the signs and not always.

I suggested one of many existing classifications, but regardless of the number and sequence of stages, there are always positive, negative and realistic ones.

Simply sometimes positive or negative – short-term; bad memories are being squeezed out, good ones are being fixed, and in a retrospective the picture is distorted.

In Israel, the United States and Holland dwelled on the realistic.

those. see both the bad and the good sides;)

And about Russia, as everywhere – someone is good, someone is bad.

As they say, it depends.

And, maybe, in Russia, too, was a realistic stage :-D.

but I have the opposite, until now the positive stages 2, 4, 6, 7 have not appeared, but I persistently continue to wait for them 🙂